Just bad behavior

So this one doesn't have a rule attached. Simply a story of bad behavior worth telling.

This football player a few years back signed with a D1 school (now currently with the NFL). He went for a visit to the school to be shown around and do a few work outs. His behavior was appalling. Numerous complaints were brought against him for his behavior towards women. He was aggressive and demeaning to all he encountered, saying well if you want me to go to your school what are you going to do to convince me. Ofcourse he also had to participate in drug activity too, lighting up to smoke weed the entire week. Actually I'm pretty sure I've never seen him not under the influence. The school officials finally had it with his act and couldn't cover it up so the released him from commitment. He was signed to another D1 school, played and then was drafted in to the NFL. He had drug incidents at the school he actually attended, pistol whipped a fellow teammate, had run ins with drug dealers and yet you probably won't ever hear about it. The housing facilities that were accommodating the team had so many complaints against this 1 player that they ended their contract and refused to continue allowing athletes to stay there. Crazy right?

Let's Watch a Movie

Rule 1:

The is NO such thing as 'watching a movie' in the college athlete (and several now NFL/NBA players) vocabulary. Do not fall for it. Do not go over and expect to see a movie. It is the catch phrase for come over to my place so I can attempt to hit it. 

I mean think about the activity at hand. The movie premise calls for a dimly lit setting. In college, there is generally no common sitting area so it makes it necessary for you to place yourself in their bed. The whole idea is a blatant attempt for seduction. All they want is you in their bed and you are allowing it to happen by placing yourself in that setting. 

'Hank' being the lovely NCAA football player that he is, declared that no girl could be in his bed "that ain't f__ng" after several failed attempts at making a move on me. I was new to college and being naive genuinely believe I was invited over to watch a movie. After refusing to give in to his attempts he made the declaration, got up and opened the door. He refused to drive me home, even though he had picked me up, and I was left outside with no ride. I walked the majority of the way home, in heels, completely humiliated. 

I didn't give up my dignity and yet I still had a feeling of shame. I had never in my life been treated with the disrespect that is all too common among athletes. It is a lot to deal with. Some girls choose to succumb to the pressure to have sex in order to avoid the humiliation of what happens with the refusal. (Some are also just hoes). Either way the result of the situation leaves a woman feeling hurt and broken after.

Whether you do the deed or not the implication that you have comes the second you enter that bedroom. The damage has been done to your reputation due to the simple association. Other athletes think 'well she was down with one so she'll get down with others' while females label and judge you. Whether it's fair or not is irrelevant. It is the reality of the situation so if you choose to put yourself in it know the reality of what is expected and assumed from it, .